DO NOT...
1. DO NOT blame yourself. It's not your Fault.
2. DO NOT epeat the "If only I had" along with the "could of, should of" refrain unless you want to make yourself miserable.
3 DO NOT stuff feeling rotten.
4. DO NOT igmore what you learned on and loved about this job.
DO...
Accept Help Graciously
1. DO acknowledge there is nothing wrong with you or reason for shame.
2. DO talk to yourself like a loving parent. Say what you would love to hear. You did the best you could even if you did not see or act on the coming downsizing.
3. DO feel the roller coaster of emotions -- mad, sad, scared and glad -- that can surface all in the same hour. This is a normal reaction to the trauma of loss. So is feeling none of the above.
4. D0 take the time to grieve a real loss -- of a job, a dream and a lifestyle.
5. DO talk repeatedly to someone you trust about the trauma.
6. DO make a list of things to avoid AND keep from the job you lost. Focus on the tasks, skills and environments that bring out or undo your personal best.
7. Above all, DO be gentle with yourself and find small, creative and inexpensive ways to nurture yourself. Yes, yes, DO HAVE FUN!
Congratulations on the launch of your new blog! I will look forward to additional posts.
Posted by: Frances Flynn Thorsen | June 21, 2005 at 11:51 AM
How can your path have heart, when your heart is always stepped on? How do you get your life back..when everyone else but you..controls it.
Posted by: Nancy | July 09, 2005 at 10:34 AM
Taking or doing it must be in order, absolutely great tips.
Posted by: olive oil | June 23, 2011 at 02:38 AM